Personally I’ve never experienced a crazy roommate. Matter of fact I’ve lived in a dorm since 11th grade and never had that much trouble with a roommate. I did however have a horrible suite-mate but it was really just the fact that she stank…REALLY BAD!
Roommates can either become your best friends or your worst enemies. It all depends on the level of respect you all have for one another. It’s very hard to get adjusted to living with someone you barely know but it takes time and effort to make things work the way they should. I’m not saying stealing food and wearing your roommates clothes are acceptable, but I am saying that there should be rules set in place so that no one gets hurt physically or emotionally.
I’ve been blessed to have several roommates that have become very beneficial and an inspiration to my life. Unfortunately, not everyone gets this kind of luck BUT things can change for the better. I believe that sitting down and speaking with your roommates about the things you do and don’t like can help unnecessary drama. If a roommate is too dirty setup a cleaning chart and explain how important it is to keep things looking neat. We all have to remember that everyone was not raised the same. Some things people have to learn through experience and you may be the one to teach them what is right or wrong.
Now….this is where it gets tricky. If you and your roommate just cannot get along.. There is no compromising or anything that can be done whatsoever it’s best to find another roommate. Dealing with the same person and their problems gets annoying and can push you to your limits. Before it gets out of hand remove yourself from the situation.
Is your roommate crazy?
Have you ever heard a woman say she couldn’t be with a particular man because he was way too nice or he just did everything right? I know it sounds ignorant but some women simply don’t know what they deserve. I believe that most women are so use to men mistreating them that when they finally receive a man who is what we call “nonexistent” they don’t know what to do with him.
I too in the past have cut off certain guys because I thought they were doing a bit too much, but I didn’t realize that that was what I needed in life. Finding a man who wants to pamper you without anything in return shouldn’t come as a surprise. There are still some men in this world who are respectful, women have just brushed them off to the side causing them to stop trying. I find it sad that so many women say they can’t continue seeing a certain man because he’s “too nice”. What does that even mean??? Because a man wants to cook for you, provide for you, and make sure you’re happy you cut all strings. What’s so crazy is that you all chase after men who leave you high and dry, degrade you, and make children with you with no intentions of taking care of their responsibilities… I’m confused!
Drug dealers won’t be in your life forever. Either he’ll get locked down or buried. Married men…I’ll do another blog about married men but you all get my point. These men you women are chasing after are only there because you’re making yourselves way too available. STOP IT! What’s really going on?
There’s nothing worse than a lady with insecurities. I’m talking about those nagging, low self-esteem, depressed females with nothing better to do than get on your everlasting nerves. It really does kill me to see or hear a beautiful female fall off their pedestal and become insecure. As a woman there is a certain standard that you should hold. It’s important because that is what defines you. Your personality and your mindset is everything.
Insecurity within a relationship is probably one of the top causes of breakups. When a woman is insecure she tends to nag A LOT, her level of jealously is through the roof, and she begins to lower herself in the relationship causing everything within the bond to fail completely. I’ve learned that trust and honesty completes a relationship. In order for your woman or you to get over being insecure she/you have to be able to trust. It’s very hard getting over being “played” BUT in order to move on you have to close that chapter.
One thing that bothers me with insecure women is the fact that they feel that every man is the same. That statement is EXTREMELY false! It may be you as the woman that attracts these dogs or “niggas” as we like to call them. I always say that the men you attract represents the woman you are. If we as women stand up and become ladies we will find men. Most women are so insecure that they fall victim to being bitches, hoes, and sluts. The question is why??? Only insecure women fall victim. A lady dares to be different and being seen as a lady means not becoming a bitch, hoe, or slut. If people look at you differently for being a lady so be it. Take pride in being different! You all love to follow trends why not set a trend and lose insecurity?! Why not set the trend of becoming more than just eyecandy or a piece of meat and become a lady?! Maybe that’s too much to ask for though…or is it?
I’ve always wondered why women are so open about their sexual desires. I wondered what made them become so comfortable with telling the world exactly what they wanted, how they wanted it, and what exactly they were willing to do to reach satisfaction. I now know that these aren’t ladies. These types of women simply scream for attention.
I’ve entitled this blog post “Eve’s Fruit” because I truly believe it was the devil’s plan to open Eve’s eyes to sexual desires. A woman’s fruit use to have value. A man use to have to work for ANYTHING he wanted from a woman. Now days a man can receive almost anything he wants from a woman by flashing money, paying for her wants(not needs), and telling her everything she wants to hear. Why is it so easy for a females to spread her legs wide for a guy who doesn’t respect her being? Are the consequences for pleasure not taken into consideration?
Wouldn’t it be smarter for women to make a man work for what he wants? Become that female who is hard to get, not easily impressed, and independent and you will receive one of the greatest men on this earth. Act like a whore and get laid, played, and tossed to the side… just like a whore.
Is it so hard to act like a lady?
My goal with for this blog will be to encourage, motivate, and reach new levels for myself and others. I want to be able to speak to you all and embark on a journey for spiritual healing, happiness, or just to learn new ideas from one another. I’ve been wanting to do this for a VERY long time but I haven’t had the chance to sit down and actually do it so here goes.
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